10 Years with Beth J: Actual First Date

Note: The post has been post-dated to reflect the actual 10 years since our first date.  As per the previous post, the computer crashing and vacation put us behind schedule in keeping the blog updated.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA10 years ago today, I took Beth on our first date….to the old Spartanburg, SC Krispy Kreme diner.  Classy!  I went to a friend’s wedding in GA, and then over to Auburn to visit some other friends.  Beth and I had talked a few times on the phone in between New Years and now.  I am not a big phone talker, but I found talking with her quite easy.  I believe that in one phone conversation, I had another “how not to court a lady” moment.  I was pretty sure that I was heading to Southern Seminary in the Fall, that I was possible looking to travel overseas, and that currently I was traveling around for my job.  So, I really didn’t want another friend.  (Judge me now).  So I told Beth all this right upfront just so that neither of us would travel down this road for a while and then have it break off.  She said that she was good with all this and willing to see what happens.

So, I added a stop on my above travels in Spartanburg, SC on my way back to my job.  I knew a family there, and they let me stay with them that night.  They were especially excited that I was there to meet a girl!  So Beth and Taiter drove up and met me at the local McAllisters.  From there we drove back to their friend’s apartment where we hung out and took the picture you see above.  And so for our official first date, we went to the old Krispy Kreme.  It wasn’t the new kind, but the ones where you sit around the counter on bar stools.  It was awesome!  When we got back to the apartment, we chatted in the car for a little bit, and then she gave me a gift…chocolate filled Oreos!  BAM!  Just the way to a man’s heart!

And yet in another “how not to court a lady” story (are you amazed that she married me yet), rather than walking her to the door, we said goodbye at my car.  She walked to the apartment; I drove off.  Sheesh!

So now we were officially dating.  Had I had Facebook, it would have been Facebook official!

The story will continue…

10 Years with Beth J: First “date week”

Note: our computer crashed a week before Christmas, so there was no opportunity to write this post on the actual date.  This post has been post-dated to the week it would have been published.

So to continue from the last post, I talked with Beth’s friends a couple of times to see how things were going.  One of my first conversations with Beth on the phone involved the way that the moviephone guy would say “mur-FREES-boro.”  Yeah, riveting discussions.  Anyway, so on one conversation, they told me that they were coming to Smyrna for New Year’s Eve to spend time with Beth’s parents and also to live it up in Nashvegas.  So Beth, Anna, and Taiter (and another friend) made the drive from Florence to Smyrna.

Meanwhile, I really wanted to hang out, but I didn’t really want to go alone.  So we all planned to spend New Year’s Eve in downtown Nashville at Graham Central Station (classy, I know).  However, all of my peeps bailed at the last minute so I joined the crew and we all headed up to Nashville and had a blast.  I didn’t realize at the time that the 1 guy that came with them was possibly interested in Beth….TOO SLOW MY FRIEND!  HA!  Anyway we celebrated the New Year by dancing and having a good time.

Over the course of the next 3 days, I met Beth and the group twice more.  Once was a dinner at Camino with the Hardimans and I think Mr. Green.  Another night was another hanging out at some country/pop dance club near Nashville with Mr. Pilote.  I was content to keep on dancing and talking with Beth, but the rest of the group had had enough of the country people dancing to pop music.  Think lots of starch, hairspray, and boots dancing to ‘NSYNC.

To cap things off with a “not how to court a girl” moment.  I gave Beth my number and told her to call me when she gets back home.  I believe her reply was, “I don’t call boys.”

But she did anyway!

Celebrating 10 years with Beth J!

photoIt was 10 years ago today that I first met the Beth J (then it was Beth Parker or later became Smyrna B).  Either way, I had traveled down to Florence, SC to speak at the BCM there about missions in South Asia.  One of their students (Christina…see picture to the right) was on my summer team that year and wanted me to come speak.  So we checked calenders and made plans for the Tuesday before Thanksgiving.  I had been traveling a lot that month and was really just ready to go home and hang out for Thanksgiving.

When I arrived, Christina took me around to meet any and everyone.  It was just slightly annoying since I really just wanted to speak and head home, but that was my selfishness.  So at lunch, she says that she wants to take me to meet her friend who just happens to be from right near my hometown in Murfreesboro.  To tell you the truth, I really wasn’t interested.  The other girl driving us wasn’t the best of drivers (sorry to offend) and didn’t like to turn left.  So she would just make multiple right turns…anyway I digress.  So we head down to the Bank of America to meet this friend.  As I walk in the bank, I turned to my right and saw my future wife.  The most beautiful smile I had ever seen; just amazing.  She said hello…and here is where our stories differ.  I say that I absolutely said hello back.  Beth says that I just stood there and said nothing.  Either way, I was thankful I made the trip!  As we were leaving the bank, a voice in my head said, “That’s the girl you’re going to marry.”

Now, I kid you not that this is indeed what happened.  I too was a bit caught off guard as I didn’t even really know much about her.  That night at BCM, I made it a point to sit near Beth and just get to know her a little.  I knew that it was a crazy long shot as she lived there and I was traveling.  After BCM, I went out to dinner with Beth and Christina and Anna (all 3 best friends).  As we entered the booth, Anna and Christina sat one one side and Beth and I were both sitting on the same side of the booth, yet you could have put a semi between us as she sat so far away, it was amazing!  We all continued to hang out throughout the night and had a blast.  I was now definitely interested in this Beth Parker.

The next morning, I called Christian to ask more about this Beth Parker, but I was told to stay away for awhile.  Anyway, the story will continue on another milestone date in the future as I celebrate 10 years with Beth J, leading up to our 10 year anniversary in 2015.